In the late 1970s and early 1980s I was sexually exploited,
abused, and ultimately assaulted — raped — by
Valentine at the Church of the Immacolata in Richmond Heights, Missouri,
a suburb of St. Louis.
Sexual exploitation and abuse that took place in the Immacolata
rectory and was witnessed, at least in part, and ignored by a man who was then
a father and is now a cardinal of the Catholic Church.
Then, in 2002, when I went to the Archdiocese of St. Louis for
help and he called me back, that's when
things got REALLY bad, I suspect in an effort to protect my friend,
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The Sins of the Fathers
The buck stops here.
I'll be damned if allow what happened to me — both as a child and
a survivor — to happen to anyone else.
While many would have you believe my story is
old news — that the
problem was solved twenty years ago and I just need to move on — my experience says otherwise; the scandal is alive and
well, at least in terms of the Abuse of the
Abused, the reality
of VOS ESTIS, and in other ways.
While the events portrayed in the movie SPOTLIGHT would seem to
mark the beginning of the end of the Catholic sex abuse crisis, they
are really just the end of the beginning. In my case, SPOTLIGHT
marks only the start — or, really, the resumption —
of the story.
...and the on-going efforts to protect the hierarchy at all
costs, including covering up the crimes of, at best, omission of
people like my friend the cardinal, one must question the — actual — resolve of the Catholic Church to protecting children.
Much less helping survivors.
Or holding the hierarchy accountable.
When I was a child, I was sexually exploited, abused, and
assaulted — raped — by a
priest named Fr. LeRoy Valentine at the Church of the Immacolata
in Richmond Heights, MO, a suburb of St. Louis, from 1977 until 1981.
Abuse was witnessed, at least in part, by my friend the
And not the baseball kind.
Then, when I went to the Archdiocese of St. Louis for help in
early March 2002, and by then Bishop Timothy Dolan returned my
call, that's when things got REALLY bad.
Most recently, I hoped to receive the support and assistance
of the — devout Catholic —
Attorney General of Missouri, Eric Schmitt but, instead of being welcomed at
the press conference announcing the results of the investigation
of ArchStL, I was terrorized and traumatized by the MO AG's office.
I was thrown
out of the building by the police for having the gall of wanting
to quietly attend the press conference.
if you'd like to talk to me about my experiences, my contact
information is listed at the bottom of this page.
I used the small settlement I received from ArchStL
to finance a surprisingly successful social media campaign that
have forced both ArchStL and Cardinal Dolan to open up to
outside reviewers. However, I'm now having financial problems
due to C-PTSD and the Cancer I was fighting at the same time I
was fighting ArchStL to help me.