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Stonewalling.

That's a term you will hear from survivors who try to get help from the Catholic Church.

But what does that mean?

Stonewalling

Why do we get so frustrated?

Just Go Away

That's the chief message I received from the Archdiocese of St. Louis.

March 26, 2019 Meeting

On March 26, 2019, I met with Archbishop Robert Carlson of the Archdiocese of St. Louis.

At the end of that meeting, +Carlson offered to meet with me again.

I spent three months e-mailing my contact, over and over and over and over again.

And, except to my first e-mail, she never replied.

And worse.

1. Mon, Apr 8, 5:21 PM

Another Meeting with Abp Carlson

FROM: me
TO: sandraprice@archstl.org

I'd like to take Abp Carlson up on his offer and meet with him again. Let me know when.

Chris O’Leary

2. Fri, Apr 12, 4:16 PM

RE: Another Meeting with Abp Carlson

FROM: me
TO: sandraprice@archstl.org

Any word on when I can meet with Archbishop Carlson again?

If at all?

Chris O'Leary

Mon, Apr 15, 8:27 AM

RE: Another Meeting with Abp Carlson

FROM: sandraprice@archstl.org
TO: me

Hi Chris,

I have not had the opportunity to talk with Archbishop Carlson yet. I will pass your request along although I do think it will be difficult to schedule another meeting so soon after you just talked with him. Please let me know what you would like to talk with him about and I will make sure he is informed.

Sandra

3. Mon, Apr 22, 12:59 PM

RE: Another Meeting with Abp Carlson

FROM: me
TO: sandraprice@archstl.org

I'm just taking Archbishop Carlson up on his offer.

Let me know when he has time.

Thanks,

Chris O'Leary

Mon, Apr 22, 1:09 PM

RE: Another Meeting with Abp Carlson

FROM: sandraprice@archstl.org
TO: me

Hi Chris,

I will reach out when I know something. I hope you had a nice Easter.

Sandra

4. Wed, May 1, 8:59 AM

Meeting with Archbishop Carlson

FROM: me
TO: sandraprice@archstl.org

Let me know.

Chris O’Leary

5. Thu, May 2, 10:46 AM

Meeting with Archbishop Carlson

FROM: me
TO: sandraprice@archstl.org

Let me know what openings the archbishop has in his schedule.

AMDG

Chris O'Leary
314.494.1324

6. Mon, May 6, 1:57 PM

Meeting with Archbishop Carlson

FROM: me
TO: sandraprice@archstl.org

Let me know what Archbishop Carlson's schedule looks like.

Thanks!

Chris O'Leary

7. Mon, May 13, 11:39 AM

Meeting with Archbishop Carlson

FROM: me
TO: sandraprice@archstl.org

I'd like to meet again with Archbishop Carlson. As he offered in my first meeting with him. Please let me know what his schedule looks like.

Chris O'Leary
314.494.1324

8. Wed, May 22, 10:11 AM

Follow-Up Meeting with Archbishop CarlsonFROM: Ivan DOesnot <ivandoesnot@gmail.com> TO: Sandra Price  Let me know when I can have the follow-up meeting with Archbishop Carlson that he offered during my first meeting. Thanks! Chris O'Leary

9. Mon, Jun 3, 8:30 AM

Meeting with Archbishop Carlson

FROM: me
TO: sandraprice@archstl.org

Let me know when I can meet again with Archbishop Carlson.

Thanks!

Chris O'Leary

10. Mon, Jun 10, 11:01 AM

Appointment to Talk to Archbishop Carlson

FROM: me
TO: sandraprice@archstl.org

Let me know when I could talk again to Archbishop Carlson.

In part, I wanted to know when he's planning on letting the people of St. Louis that I didn't lie to ArchStL.

As I said, NOBODY from MQP will talk to me, and my kids think I'm lying and treat me with suspicion.

Thanks!

Chris O'Leary

11. Tue, Jun 18, 3:15 PM

Follow-Up Meeting with Abp Carlson

FROM: me
TO: sandraprice@archstl.org

Please let me know when I could talk again to Archbishop Carlson.

In part, I want to know when he/you are planning on letting the people of St. Louis know my story didn't actually change and I didn't lie.

As I said, NOBODY from MQP will talk to me, and my kids think I'm lying and treat me with suspicion.

Thanks!

Chris O'Leary

Epilogue

I have yet to get a second meeting with Archbishop Carlson. And he has yet to "clarify" what has been said about me.

And worse.