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You hypocrite,
first take the plank out of your own eye,
and then you will see clearly
to remove the speck from your brother's eye.

- Matthew 7:5

I'm a survivor of the Catholic Church's sex abuse crisis.

When I was a child, I was sexually exploited, abused, and assaulted -- raped -- by a priest named Fr. LeRoy Valentine at the Church of the Immacolata in Richmond Heights, MO, a suburb of St. Louis, from 1977-1981.

Then, when I went to the Archdiocese of St. Louis for help in early March 2002, and Timothy Cardinal Dolan returned my call, that's when things got REALLY bad.

While some would have you believe the Catholic sex abuse crisis is a problem of the past, my literally up to the moment, experience says this instead is a (Very) Present Crisis.

For updates on my story and efforts to get justice for myself and all survivors, please follow me on Twitter @IvanDOesnot

The Sins of the Fathers

Yes, the Catholic Church did some terrible things in the past, but the problems that were exposed in the movie Spotlight have been solved, right?


I'm an acknowledged survivor -- I met with Archbishop Carlson of ArchStL on March 26, 2019, and that only happens if your (arch)diocese believes you WERE abused -- and NOTHING'S changed when it comes to the treatment of survivors, at least.


If you're looking for a place to start trying to understand my story and my truth, start here...

A longer overview of what I've been put through is my discussion of what I call...

If you'd rather listen or watch, than read...


I'm in the process of writing a book that discusses my experiences...

My latest pieces include...


Why believe me?

I've been extensively vetted -- in one case, the process took two months -- by multiple major publications.

Most recently, I was invited on the Dave Glover Show in St. Louis to tell my story...

My story was first told by Aisha Sultan on April 20, 2018 in the St. Louis Post-Dispatch...

...and then, in some depth, by Religion Digital...

Other stories that mention my story or me include...

if you'd like to talk to me about my experiences, my contact information is listed at the bottom of this page.


In advance of, and during, the Vatican sex abuse summit, I recorded a number of...


I have recorded some of my testimony in podcast form...


I used the small settlement I received from ArchStL to finance a surprisingly successful social media campaign that have forced both ArchStL and Cardinal Dolan to open up to outside reviewers. However, I'm now having financial problems due to C-PTSD and the Cancer I was fighting at the same time I was fighting ArchStL to help me.


For updates on this project, follow me on Twitter @IvanDOesnot


Chris O'Leary
Webster Groves, MO

ivandoesnot (at)
314.494.13Two4 (Please text before calling)